If there is to be peace in the world,
There must be peace in the nations.
If there is to be peace in the nations,
There must be peace in the cities.
If there is to be peace in the cities,
There must be peace between neighbors.
If there is to be peace between neighbors,
There must be peace in the home.
If there is to be peace in the home,
There must be peace in the heart.
There has not been peace in my heart of late and, therefore, there has been no peace in our home. After hearing my husband yell, I vowed that there would be no more yelling. It has been a week and so far, with one or two missteps that were quickly corrected, I have kept that promise to myself. I have made an attempt to cut back on the things that I can and I've committed to focusing on the things that are truly important to me. It isn't an easy commitment to make. I'm constantly being asked to get involved with things at school and church. I have things I want to do and my family wants to do. It is hard to say "no" sometimes, especially to family and friends. But, I realize now, more than ever, that my children are following my lead and I haven't been happy with some of the places I've led them to. It is time to take a more thoughtful path instead of meandering, somewhat aimlessly, where ever the wind takes us. I am trying to create the time and space to be thoughtful about how I handle things, so I do not fall back on yelling as a coping mechanism.
If we are peaceful, if we are happy, we can smile and blossom like a flower, and everyone in our family, our entire society, will benefit from our peace. -Thich Nhat Hanh